A Couples Guide to Threesomes

Let’s be honest, threesomes are fun. Limbs, and bodies, and sweat, and nakedness galore…Dear Michelangelo would have been so very proud of us. But before you and your partner book yourself an additional playmate, are there some burning questions you’re asking yourself?

 

(This guide is intended for couples who are about to book their first threesome with an escort).

 

“Why do we want a threesome?”

Every couple is unique and their reasons for embarking on a threesome are just as diverse; from one partner being a voyeur, one partner being bisexual or lesbian, or it simply being a fantasy you’ve had to include another person into your “space.” Threesomes are all about chemistry and the balance of power, therefore threesomes with a professional companion are an opportunity to experience additional adventure and passion in your relationship within a balanced, safe and symmetrically sound environment. 

 

So, the hardest part of this is actually deciding if your relationship can handle a ménage à trois – but once you’re there, let the mind-blowing double-trouble fun begin! 

 

Next, have a think about why you are doing it? Not only will that ground and bond you both in your adventure, but it will also help me direct the experience. For example, if your wife/girlfriend has been curious about being with a woman then I can spend more time with her, or if your fantasy has been for you both to experience another person, then I’ll happily be sandwiched in between the two of you to be devoured – tough job but someone’s gotta do it. Or maybe you’re simply just a couple who are sexually explorative and enjoy the thrill and naughtiness that threesomes offer regardless of dynamic.

 

“What exactly happens?”

The trick with a threesome is to share the workload evenly, this ensures no-one is feeling left out in the pleasure stakes. This includes receiving, giving, and also taking timeout to watch. Threesomes are a melody of mutual oral, intercourse, foreplay, kissing, swapping positions and 3way positions, and a general rolling around intertwined in bed together. If in doubt - don’t stress and just follow my lead. 

 

“What about boundaries?”

Have a think about whether each partner is comfortable with getting involved, watching and also having intercourse. Discuss what you both consider clear no-no’s, and then if anything pops up during the booking that doesn’t feel right for one of you, it’s easy and completely ok to just say: “that doesn’t feel right” during the booking - you’re navigating uncharted territory and sometimes you don’t know what you’ll like or dislike until it’s happening!

 

Then simply set some boundaries if you need them and let me know, or don’t set any and go with the flow! 

 

Some guidelines…

 

Consent is Sexy.

I receive an inquiry occasionally from a male wanting to book me for a “surprise threesome,” with his girlfriend – “We’ll pretend we just picked you up in a bar,” he says, “please don’t tell her you’re an escort,” he says, “she wants it, honest!” he says. If she wanted it, she would be proactively booking it with you. There is something seriously non-arousing about entrapment sex, so for me, unfortunately I decline these bookings. The moral of the story? Don’t ever backdoor the deal – otherwise the only surprise you’ll be getting is how uncomfortable the sofa is to sleep on. 

 

Protection is Paramount.

Aside from your standard sexual health practices to ensure a safe one-on-one rendezvous, with an extra body in the mix there are further insurances to consider. A BYO sex toy etiquette for threesomes works well, or use a condom on sex toys, and make sure you are changing the condom between lovers. 

 

Other than that, the best thing to do is just relax and enjoy each other - you’ll be surprised how naturally playing with three will come to you both.

 

Hugs

Harper

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Next month my blog is for newbie solo men and experienced players who would like to brush up on their double-trouble tricks!

Harper Jones