The 8 Female Orgasms

On the female body there is the possibility of achieving eight types of orgasms…yes, eight! Let’s start with the clitoral and nipple orgasm and the remaining hot spots will be delivered in a following 3 blogs…because anything worth getting is worth the wait, much like my own orgasms.

1.  Clitoral Orgasm

Let’s start with the clitoris; screamingly obvious and sensitively intense. This go-to ecstasy explosion is what we know as THE orgasm, but did you know that a clitoral orgasm is the most superficial, short-lived, and shallow orgasm of all? On average only 10-15 seconds long and centralized around the genitalia region, and when the pleasure subsides the clitoris can then feel sensitive and sometimes slightly painful, there is also only a handful of penetrative sex positions that give the clitoris full contact. That isn’t to say that a clitoral orgasm isn’t wonderful, but a vaginal orgasm is deeper.

How to have it

Apply stimulation to the clitoris using fingers, a vibrator, your partner's mouth, a pillow, a piece of fruit, whatever floats your clitoral boat, I suppose. Note that all women prefer different stimulation of their clitoris, so ask your lover whether she likes direct, indirect, hard, soft, circular motions etc.

The clitoral orgasm comes down to mathematical logic (and common sense) so to help you here is my highly researched, science-based equation, formulated from my entire time on this earth as a female:

Communication + duration + blood flow + sensitivity - roughness

= the big O!

So in other words, the aim is to get blood flow to a sensitive area over a period of time using your skills as a lover and communicator. Aka, don’t rush her, don’t be rough, do what she likes not what you like, and move with her rhythm to build a peak.

2.  Nipple Orgasm

Female nipples are an important erogenous zone as they are connected to the clitoris via energy channels. So stimulation of the breasts will cause an arousal of the clitoris and the whole genital area. Continued stimulation of the breasts and nipples can result in an actual orgasm or if vaginal stimulation is in motion, combined with nipple play, it can escalate the onset of an orgasm. Women with small breasts tend to be more sensitive, but all women can develop sensitivity in their breasts, regardless of size.

Nipple play is very individual, I myself don’t generally enjoy nipple play unless it’s done on my terms - gently. But breast play? I’m in! A breast massage evokes a seductive growl in me (and a stir in my groin). So I can say that I have never experienced a nipple orgasm, but breast orgasm? Stay tuned.

How to have it

Using fingers, a vibrator, or a partner’s mouth to stimulate the nipples. Ways to stimulate the nipples are to touch, rub, pinch, pull, kneed, and twist them to explore different sensations. You can also lick, suck, and bite them. Aim to try this for at least 20 minutes, even when they feel a bit sensitive or if the sensation has stopped. Women with breast implants, breast lifts, or piercings may be sensitive or insensitive to nipple contact so take this into consideration.

Harper’s Hint

The above is a general guide and not a generic one. As always, communication is key – ask your lover: “How do you enjoy your nipples being played with?” Just like you may not enjoy your balls being gnashed at primitively with a pair of teeth, she may freak out seeing your teeth enthusiastically coming towards her nipples.

3.  Vagina Entrance Orgasm

The vagina entrance, I feel, is overlooked. There is a bundle of nerves at the entrance to the vagina and is, apart from the clitoris, where most women experience pleasure and orgasms - making it an underdog in the erogenous zone department. In comparison to the internal areas of the vagina, this type of orgasm can be similar to the clitoral orgasm – shallow, sharp and super explosive.

How to have it:

Using fingers, a tongue, a dildo, or a partner's penis, stimulate the hot spot by touching the ring of muscles and tissue at the entrance to the vagina. In circular movements, but shallow in-and-out movements also work well, the focus being to apply pressure and stimulation "outward.”

Harper’s Hint

Keep it to a shallow, gentle, circular movement at the entrance, not dissimilar to a massage.

4.  Throat Orgasm

I write with excitement; this is one of my favourite orgasms! Many women can experience orgasms when they are performing oral sex, especially when deep-throating. This is due to the arousal of the pituitary gland at the back of the throat, which is also a minor chakra according to Tantra. When stimulated orally, some women can excrete huge quantities of saliva, mucus, and white foam from their throat. The release of these fluids is considered to be throat ejaculation.

The orgasm itself obviously feels ecstatic and is sometimes accompanied by convulsions and spasms. The orgasm can be so intense that some women may need to take a break and cannot continue. Although very pleasurable, a throat orgasm feels more transcendent, magical if you will; women go into a semi-state of trance and feel a more pure state of consciousness. To me I often call this feeling cock drunk or cock drugged, I become a little dazed and hypnotised, and with throat ejaculation, I can feel like I’m in a state of euphoria.

How to have it

There are a few options available to us here, but whichever you choose please do so with caution – slow and gentle. Ideally, she needs to be already aroused or post genitalia orgasm.

Fingers: Another person is best to do this and take into consideration communicating with your lover, as many people don’t take kindly to an unsolicited finger jammed down their throat, even in the throes of passion. This can be done by inserting a thumb, facing upward to the mouth and then rubbing the upper back of the throat. Again, gently – we have gag reflexes.

Penis (or toy equivalent): I don’t feel the need to say here: insert penis into mouth, as I figure you are on board. The aim is to gently stroke the back of the throat, so some deep-throating or attempted deepness is preferred. Then aim to massage the throat with the tip of the penis. For the receiver, it may feel challenging at first, especially if it’s something you haven’t tried before. You might even experience convulsing and feeling like you're going to vomit. Try to keep the penis inside the throat for as long as you can without moving (oh, and relax) then alternating between this and removing the penis to re-stroke the throat again. This can be a lengthy act, and is not your typical blowjob.

Harper’s Hint

The ability to deep-throat is not a choice; it is mechanics – some women, in fact, many women, cannot. So forced deep throat may feel kinky at times but for the purpose of the above, it simply won’t work. Think of the throat chakra as a sensitive and vulnerable place, ramming a penis or finger into it will not encourage an orgasm. Speaking from my own personal experience, when it’s a caring and gentle throat massage I feel the back of my throat ease, open and soften, finally inspiring the ejaculation – when uncomfortable and forced the throat tends to cease up (as the throat chakra feels invaded). I would suggest letting her lead the way with this orgasm. 

Next blog is the remaining 4 orgasms!

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Xxx

Harper Jones